About Single And Shy

Single And Shy is a UK dating site for shy people and introverts, and for anyone who'd rather get to know someone slowly than impress a crowd quickly.

We built it because most of dating is designed around one kind of person: someone who's at ease approaching strangers, quick with a reply and happy in a noisy room. Plenty of people are like that. Plenty aren't. For everyone else, the usual routes, from crowded bars to fast swipe apps, can turn something that should be exciting into something exhausting.

Because There's Nothing Wrong With Being Shy

Being shy or introverted isn't a problem to fix, and nothing on this site will try to fix it. Quiet people tend to listen well, think before they speak and care a great deal about the people they let in. Those are good things to bring to a relationship. What quiet people often lack is a way of meeting someone that suits them. That's the gap we set out to fill.

How Single And Shy Works

You create a profile, read other people's profiles, and write to the people you'd like to get to know. That's it. There's no swiping, no expiring matches and no counters telling you how quickly anyone replies. You can take a day to answer a message, or a week off altogether, and nothing disappears.

It works in the browser on your phone, tablet or computer, so there's nothing to download. It suits short sessions: read a couple of profiles, reply to a message, log off. That's not using it wrong. For a lot of people, that rhythm is what makes it work.

Who You'll Meet Here

Introverts who find socialising tiring and want to spend that energy on the right person. Shy people who'd love company but dread the first approach. People who are both. And a good number who are neither, but who've worked out that they get on best with quieter people and are happy to be the one who makes the first move.

If you'd like to know more about any of those groups, start with how introvert dating works here, or read our practical tips for shy daters if you're ready to get going.

What We're Not

We're a dating site, not a therapy service. Shyness and social anxiety aren't the same thing, and if meeting new people brings on real dread rather than ordinary nerves, it's worth talking to your GP. We've written a page on dating with social anxiety for anyone in that position. What we can offer is a kinder way to meet people, and we're proud of that.

Ready When You Are

There's no right time to start and no wrong pace once you have. Browse our members and see if someone catches your eye.

Because There's Nothing Wrong With Being Shy

Being shy or introverted isn't a problem to fix, and nothing on this site will try to fix it. Quiet people tend to listen well, think before they speak and care a great deal about the people they let in. Those are good things to bring to a relationship. What quiet people often lack is a way of meeting someone that suits them. That's the gap we set out to fill.

How Single And Shy Works

You create a profile, read other people's profiles, and write to the people you'd like to get to know. That's it. There's no swiping, no expiring matches and no counters telling you how quickly anyone replies. You can take a day to answer a message, or a week off altogether, and nothing disappears.

It works in the browser on your phone, tablet or computer, so there's nothing to download. It suits short sessions: read a couple of profiles, reply to a message, log off. That's not using it wrong. For a lot of people, that rhythm is what makes it work.

Who You'll Meet Here

Introverts who find socialising tiring and want to spend that energy on the right person. Shy people who'd love company but dread the first approach. People who are both. And a good number who are neither, but who've worked out that they get on best with quieter people and are happy to be the one who makes the first move.

If you'd like to know more about any of those groups, start with how introvert dating works here, or read our practical tips for shy daters if you're ready to get going.

What We're Not

We're a dating site, not a therapy service. Shyness and social anxiety aren't the same thing, and if meeting new people brings on real dread rather than ordinary nerves, it's worth talking to your GP. We've written a page on dating with social anxiety for anyone in that position. What we can offer is a kinder way to meet people, and we're proud of that.

Ready When You Are

There's no right time to start and no wrong pace once you have. Browse our members and see if someone catches your eye.